Poor but resourceful man. He may not meet âproperâ criteria for being a survivor - but thats exactly what he is. I hope powerful people just let him and his dog be.
I hear a lot along the lines of, âIf only wed knownâ or âwe should do more to help those who suffer from depressionâ. Yet, it is also pretty obvious that unknown numbers of sufferers are fiercely private individuals. As such, we dont know and so we cant help. To then blast the mental health system as being inadequate seems a lot like scapegoating to ease of troubled minds that potentially we should have known and could have helped.
Twyford and Labour stand or fall on this exasperating dily-dallying. Green lit by National, it's now looking more unlikely as each day passes. Come clean Twyford. The death route road between Otaki and Levin is a scandalous excuse for a major state Highway.
I inadvertently watched it recently on an Air New Zealand flight from Auckland to Tokyo and half expected the safety instructions to come after it. When I wondered out loud when the safety instructions were going to be presented, my partner sighed and said, âYouve just watched it.â I could not believe it so paid extra attention on the return flight home. Rank amateurism with a mish-mash of stupidly unfunny clips I could not understand. A national embarrassment.
Pink would feel sore if a reviewer dissed her latest CD, Beautiful Trauma, without even bothering to listen to it. Likewise, to review the bar, Pink needs to have actually visited the place.
Fake references are easily provided - Id only ever look at references vetted by a reputable property manager. Otherwise its a mates looking after mates game.
If it bleeds, it leads. That may be 1 of news but is a pretty superficial standard when it comes to determining who has priority to be seen in A&E. So the bleeder evaluates other patients as less urgent than him. Is he a medical professional? What assessment procedures did he use? What criteria did he use? Appearances?I'd hate him to assess me when I'm really crook - I usually look perfectly fine to those who go by looks. Perhaps I should pour some tomato sauce over my limbs. Then the bleeder will say, You go first, mate, ahead of all these non bleeders.
City Council says the work was not carried out as expected. No kidding! Is that the level of the Councils displeasure? Who is the Wally who did this? Utterly clueless.
Alisons opinion piece is admittedly about risks women face from social media attacks and, as a result, their voices being shut down - yet the examples she provides are of other ordinary womens verbal attacks on these women.Women silencing other women? Then she makes a cheap contrast with two alt-right speakers - one male, the other female - who will visit New Zealand to spread their controversial beliefs on racial superiority and immigration - but she makes no reference to the female gender of one of those speakers. Does Alison think this womans voice should be silenced?Yes, its complicated. So why not acknowledge that complicating fact instead of writing a story that yet again portrays women as victims?
If the dying patient confessed to the doctors to clear his conscience, then he should have been told that confessing to the legal authorities would be a far, far more powerful way to address the question of conscience. Otherwise, allowing a guilty party to try to clear his conscience is the exact wrong thing to do - even under the present circumstances.
Labour PR merchants could not have done a better job. Its the Jacinda Show. All that is missing is the âRa-ra-raâ trills. A mere whisper about Lees-Galloways blunder when it threatens to be more than a passing shout.
The decent thing for the Council to do is to accept it got it wrong. If it doesnt want to apologise, fine. But to appeal the adjudicators decision shows the Council thinks theres nothing wrong in its inflated tenancy rentals.
The anti-male sentiments evoked by Williams professional tantrumming recalls the cult-like mood of the mid-1970s when Susan Brownmillers book âAgainst Our Will: Men, Women & Rapeâ popularised the mantra, â˜All men are rapists. It feels like nothings really been learned. The best a debate can offer is a woefully simplistic round of anti-male banners masquerading as reasoned commentary. The worst part is the lapdog males who dare not contradict the banners. The relatively few female voices calling on Williams to stop the dummy-spitting the grow up are a balm in this new season of male hating.
This is not the bad news Jones suggest it is. All construction companies approached refused to a fixed price for the mammoth âuniqueâ build. Good. They are modeling the approach needed in an industry where cost-cutting and beating your rivals have been wreckless priorities. Businessman Jones knows that does not mean a free-for-all for the successful contractor - it simply means the company doesnt risk going under for the sake of getting the job.
Even the women who trolled and lambasted the âvictimâ? Funny that women who behave badly are excused on the grounds of their own alleged victim hood. Thats a convenient hook to excuse women who mistreat other women. Now lets see if we can start looking for the victimhood status of men who mistreat other males.
Theres a local hue and cry over ethically sourced bananas and tea (among other edibles). But, until this Stuff article, zilch about ethically sourced phosphate. The story behind it is upsetting on many levels - and there appears no clearcut answer. Will New Zealand step forward and refuse all imports of phosphate and turn to the Chatham Island alternative?
Contract locals to clean them - rather than rely on the Council. I was in Picton earlier this year and found one of the unisex âautoâ toilets to be completely out of loo paper (it was otherwise in an acceptable state). I phoned the âofficialâ number for complaints, and once my call was answered, the operator proceeded to ask me a series of questions about my name, address m, how long I was going to be in Picton and my immediate contact details. I interrupted her to complain about all the personal information she wanted from me and to tell her of the complaint - but she protested she had to take all my details. I reiterated my complaint and hung up. One day later:Still no loo paper in the toilet. Get a local contractor who does the job minus all the beauracracy.
If only Bridges had promoted JLR none of this would have come to light. The taped phone call paints both in an unfavourable light. That makes JLR a hypocrite - in addition to everything he accuses Bridges of.
Before results were announced - but only after voting had finished - the three judges were asked who they thought should win; one wouldn't say but two said Harris.
So anyone - including other women - who see the weaknesses in Alisons arguments is the kind of person she writes about? That sounds like cult thinking: if you dont agree with everything we say, you are against us.
Ive always admired her restrained public persona - especially during those times of intense media interest and scrutiny such as her then husbands leaving her and her daughters drug problems. She has presence and mana.
Even for males, 64 is incredibly early for someone to turn into âan old manâ. Even so, it is a sobering reminder of what can happen when relatively large age gaps exist in relationships and marriages.
So is this just Woodhouse mouthing off along the lines of, âIf I still held power, Id bar herâ or a considered piece of National policy? Wheres Simon Bridges?
Khashoggi endured repeated death threats over a number of years from Saudi Arabia. Yet he willingly walked alone into a Saudi Arabian embassy in Turkey. I would not have been the only one to have thought, âNo, you shouldnt have!â when he briskly walked into the embassy that day - the first time he had ever done so since working for the Washington Post.
As a man in his mid-60s, I can only express sadness that yet another religious group imposes harmful psycho therapies on its members socialised into hating themselves and their sexuality. As a mixed up, guilt-ridden young man who wanted to abide by his JW beliefs, I so wanted to be rid of the gay. I approached several different therapists asking if they could help. Most said they were not trained in the type of therapy I was seeking (aversion therapy) and warned me about it. They offered instead to help me accept myself - but that scared me almost to death. I came across a couple of local hypnotists who said they could help who worked their hocus-picks on me - but that made me feel even more confused and depressed. I eventually left the JW religion because it was also increasing my sense of personal defective ness, wickedness and desire to kill myself. Here I am some four decades later free of religious madness and self-loathing and I am now into my 20th year of living with my male partner. I am happy to now be Depression- and suicide free - accepting myself as I was encouraged to do by those wonderful therapists from the late 1970s-early 1980s whose offer s to help me come to terms with my sexuality were declined for so long.
Well,if the song's half as good as any of the iconic Split Enz's songs, this will indeed be a special gift. At this point in time, however, it does have publicity stunt for a new CD written all over it.
It's so bad, it's good. Just as New Zealand's Got Talent was torpedoed by a couple of criminally dodgy contestants and foul-mouth judges, TV 3's Dancing with the Stars is heading into franchise oblivion. Keep up the bad - compulsive viewing in the meantime. No accident the show's actually sponsored by a major headache pill company.
Unintentionally hilarious opening sentence describes iceberg as âparkedâ near the village. Icebergs dont park: They either float or are grounded on the sea floor. Still, the video showing the break off of a large sheath of ice from the iceberg is pretty impressive in its wave-creating impact.
If most men lived in fear of the likelihood of some level of physical assault when they go to bars and clubs - based on previous experience and/or hearing what happens to their male friends - there might be more of a groundswell of support for Wellington's initiative to stamp out sexual assault on women in bars and clubs. This stands or falls on how well men who go to bars and clubs acknowledge and treat it as a real problem for women that needs to be squarely addressed.
Even people who stay still burnt out and, as Parker says, often had 10 years added to their life in terms of health costs. To suggest those who stepped down from their roles were not 1 Cantabrians is a little on the thoughtless side. Some had absolutely no choice than to give up their roles such was the health toll.
With climax heaving music fit for ushering in a splendid new world of smooth-as motoring. Bring on the goosebumps! I'm looking forward to a marvellously engineered, congestion-free, scenic-thrilled driving experience.
âOwnersâ aggrieved to be forced by their bank into mortgagee sale usually hate the bank by the time it reaches this stage. This is usually a perfect storm when owners realise they wont be any better off following the sale and so engage in a range of self-defeating behaviours in a feeble attempt to get back at the bank. None of it works - in fact, a lot of it harms the owner - but thats hardly the point which is a desperate attempt to hit back at the mean bank which is simply trying to reduce its losses.
ACC argues the plan would pre-approve treatment for more straightforward injuries. Wonderful! Not. ACC has spent an organisational lifetime turning straightforward injuries into claims nightmares. And were expected to believe 400 fewer staff will enable this unbelievably feather-lite vision? Welcome to longer and longer waiting times and even greater frustrations over even the simplest of claims.
Ethical considerations? What a load of professional rubbish. What about ethical considerations towards the victims and their families who have likely spent decades not knowing who did it - or worse, blamed others? Anyone who has been through that would never be okay about the doctors craven silence.And as for those who allegedly paid him to do it - theyre off scot free? And were led to believe that the doctors agonised over this decision to keep quiet? Makes me sick just reading about it.
Heaven isn't big or expensive enough. God needs - and gets -lots of valuable, tax-free Auckland properties. Always space for God and his moneyed followers - - not so much room for all others.
Mummy to son: If you throw a big wobbly when youre in the supermarket with me, you could end up a social media star!Son to Mummy: Take me to the supermarket right now. Im feeling ugly and mean!
Reducing damages from over five million to six-hundred thousand is a staggering financial victory for the publisher, whatever Rebel says to the contrary.
In this age of headline scrolling, there is no excuse for anyone complaining about too many stories about people dying of cancer. CJ1, do yourself - and us - a big favour: Scroll right past such stories: Youll be able to keep your head in the sand and well be spared your ignorance.
So in the list of ingredients Mad Butchers put ms everything except the main ingredient - so you dont even get to see what percentage is âpureâ beef? Thanks Mad Butcher. Do other sausage makers have this sort of unhelpful ingredients list?
Thank our lucky stars it was Sam and not David Seymour. For several weeks Mr Wooden Legs threatened to beat the lot with his loyal block of voters. But in the end, good taste and moves prevailed. Will Sam announce her win on Newshub?
Some services and counsellors fees are based on clients incomes or allow payment over time. Also, WINZ may under certain circumstances provide an allowance for counselling. The other side is that many counsellors, including registered psychologists, have invested literally years and years of expensive training and study to gain their qualifications and maintain their practising certificates. Shop around!
She did not go there - but some of her staff did. The bar owner has invited her to pay a visit. To be fair, she should have said she was basing her review - not on firsthand experience - but her staffs. To leave that important part out is unfair, dont you think (regardless of what a humble person she may otherwise be)?
So it would pass without media comment if the âstarsâ reputation wasnt tarnished? I cant work out what reputation has got to do with wealthy overseas interests buying leasehold land.
So did Ross carry out his leaders instruction knowing it was an alleged corrupt practice that could end in a criminal conviction? If he takes his âevidenceâ to the police, will he too face charges?
Everyone wants it the way it used to be (which is almost always how it was when they first moved there) with little thought given to how - even back then - it wasnt the way it originally was. We have the same âsyndromeâ on the Kapiti Coast: Old timers lament the changes - forgetting the changes that preceded them and that were even âcausedâ by their arrival a generation or two ago. Oh yes! And its others who are greedy - never âusâ.
Of course you are not placing blame on the parents, but at the same time you divert the focus away from IDEA services failure to adequately investigate the parents complaints (not even interviewing them) and then fobbing them off with a one-page report. And when the parents finally managed to obtain the full report, it was inadequate and contained inaccuracies, including that the parents had been interviewed when they had not.There is no way upper management would have been ignorant of this astonishing set of stone-walling tactics and failures to adequately investigate. It perpetuates the notion that IDEA Services suffers from incompetent leadership. The apology seems hollow and is no guarantee the specific staff involved have been held to account.
It is hardly âvoluntaryâ when so much inculcated religious misinformation goes with the pressure to stop being homosexual in orientation and be âstraightâ. As for banning it: yes lets work to have aversion therapy banned. It is from a discredited school of psychotherapy and outcome studies indicate it does not work but can be damaging in the process. As for claims it turns gays straight; what rubbish! If a man is bisexual, all he has to do is suppress his interest in men and presto! Hes allegedly cured. Highly dubious and unethical.
When my great grandfather - who still had his marbles in the 1920s - faced access to landlocked properties,Landlocked properties - illegal in New Zealand - should unlock easily. Theres something fishy about the back story.
Id have thought that eulogies at any âfundamentalistâ church were just opportunities to use the individuals death as an excuse to preach and recruit. Its bound to upset someone but thats what happens in that environment. The message is preached and the audience is told how to get ârightâ with the churchs beliefs. Show me one fundamentalist church that doesnt do that. The Franklin family admitted they never actually sat down with the minister to go over the eulogy together and say what they wanted. Big mistake - especially given this was not a more mainstream church.
It would be more accurate to say the lakes vary in colour year round. We lived there some years ago and none of this is new. Major subdivision work at the time was thought to be behind the browning of the lower lake then - but no one protested (when its housing its more forgivable).
Has there ever been a count over several days of how many cyclists on an average day crossover the bridge? Strange that plans were made to design a separate lane for cyclists when no one even appears to know these sorts of numbers.
I think one of their considerations was whether his confessions were about present risk or danger to self and/or others (i.e., that he was currently or about to engage in lethal contract work). So, to use your example, yes placing a time bomb in the hospital toilets would be disclosed to the police.
An astonishingly insensitive comment. The coach and boys did not choose to go so deeply into the cave. Unexpected flooding forced them in further to higher ground to avoid drowning. Unfortunately as they were to learn, they soon became completely trapped. To the coachs credit, he helped the boys remain as calm as possible.
An acquaintance made it even harder for the bank who, in turn, cut him and his family no slack and he suffered a major loss. Friends warned him to cooperate with the bank for the very reasons you allude to. But he refused. I think he had a big time need to spit the dummy even though it backfired in the end. And I dont blame the bank for taking a hard line. He was warned well ahead of time what could happen if he didnt cooperate but he had to be seen as David versus Goliath.
So does the rest of the Kapiti Expressway have the quieter seal? I recall the residents of Raumati staged a protest over the louder than expected seal within months of the Expressway opening last year. Looks like Peka Peka residents will be much better served.
Isnt there a story here that needed to have been told well before the course is on the verge of being scrapped? Presumably the decision wasnt made overnight. Im astonished that the latest batch of students didnt seize hold of the opportunity to run an investigative series on the state of journalism training in New Zealand. What a missed opportunity!People interviewed spoke as though this is the first theyve heard of the course ending for good in November. If this were a cooking or health service course I could understand the âdone dealâ fatalism of the interviewees - but these are prospective or seasoned journalists who needed to have got onto the story much earlier or asked why there has been so very little notice. As for the comment that the closure is about a failure of marketing rather than training demand: Wheres the evidence for that? Good journalism would have dig much deeper and sought definitive answers and not settled for âwoe is usâ thinking.
She never even mentioned property downsizing - often necessary for the later years due to declining health and physical well-being. Not one word mentioned about the potential nest egg here. She cited an American study by Fidelity - but produces no evidence she has actually sat down with Kiwi retirees who have sensibly downsized property and are happily living on reduced incomes with handsome savings.
Health boards 'wasted' $90,000 trying to stop supermarket changing alcohol shelf angles
Legal wrangles over shelving angles? Youve got to be kidding.
Wounded Clare Curran had no choice but to quit
A nice but dithering PM bears responsibility for the slow crumbling of a minister who shouldve gone months ago. Thanks Jacinda for nothing.
Angus McIntyre, 72, lives in a junkyard next to WINZ. His landlord wants him gone
Poor but resourceful man. He may not meet âproperâ criteria for being a survivor - but thats exactly what he is. I hope powerful people just let him and his dog be.
National Enquirer hid damaging stories about US President Donald Trump in a safe
What more will it take to topple this Emperor with no clothes on?
Greg Boyed: An obituary by Phil Vine
I hear a lot along the lines of, âIf only wed knownâ or âwe should do more to help those who suffer from depressionâ. Yet, it is also pretty obvious that unknown numbers of sufferers are fiercely private individuals. As such, we dont know and so we cant help. To then blast the mental health system as being inadequate seems a lot like scapegoating to ease of troubled minds that potentially we should have known and could have helped.
Future of ÅŒtaki to Levin expressway uncertain after NZTA says it is being 're-evaluated and reconsidered'
Twyford and Labour stand or fall on this exasperating dily-dallying. Green lit by National, it's now looking more unlikely as each day passes. Come clean Twyford. The death route road between Otaki and Levin is a scandalous excuse for a major state Highway.
Shane Jones attacks Air NZs hip hop safety video as trivialising safety
I inadvertently watched it recently on an Air New Zealand flight from Auckland to Tokyo and half expected the safety instructions to come after it. When I wondered out loud when the safety instructions were going to be presented, my partner sighed and said, âYouve just watched it.â I could not believe it so paid extra attention on the return flight home. Rank amateurism with a mish-mash of stupidly unfunny clips I could not understand. A national embarrassment.
Pop star Pink hits out at Auckland bar Deadshot, but helps clear up dishes at another
Pink would feel sore if a reviewer dissed her latest CD, Beautiful Trauma, without even bothering to listen to it. Likewise, to review the bar, Pink needs to have actually visited the place.
Landlord seeking answers about rent from empty property
Fake references are easily provided - Id only ever look at references vetted by a reputable property manager. Otherwise its a mates looking after mates game.
Wounded man waits as people 'looking for free treatment' clog A&E
Hold the camera, please. Wait for it to bleed more. That'll prove I should have been seen much earlier.
Queen Elizabeth pays tribute to Aretha Franklin, the Queen of Soul
Two classy queens who command respect, one a white English Rose, the other a black American rose. Unbeatable. Shame no video of the song being played.
Wounded man waits as people 'looking for free treatment' clog A&E
If it bleeds, it leads. That may be 1 of news but is a pretty superficial standard when it comes to determining who has priority to be seen in A&E. So the bleeder evaluates other patients as less urgent than him. Is he a medical professional? What assessment procedures did he use? What criteria did he use? Appearances?I'd hate him to assess me when I'm really crook - I usually look perfectly fine to those who go by looks. Perhaps I should pour some tomato sauce over my limbs. Then the bleeder will say, You go first, mate, ahead of all these non bleeders.
Christchurch contractor mistakenly encases trees in concrete
City Council says the work was not carried out as expected. No kidding! Is that the level of the Councils displeasure? Who is the Wally who did this? Utterly clueless.
Alison Mau: Voices of ordinary Kiwi women are being shut down online
Alisons opinion piece is admittedly about risks women face from social media attacks and, as a result, their voices being shut down - yet the examples she provides are of other ordinary womens verbal attacks on these women.Women silencing other women? Then she makes a cheap contrast with two alt-right speakers - one male, the other female - who will visit New Zealand to spread their controversial beliefs on racial superiority and immigration - but she makes no reference to the female gender of one of those speakers. Does Alison think this womans voice should be silenced?Yes, its complicated. So why not acknowledge that complicating fact instead of writing a story that yet again portrays women as victims?
A deathbed murder confession: Why doctors decided not to tell police
If the dying patient confessed to the doctors to clear his conscience, then he should have been told that confessing to the legal authorities would be a far, far more powerful way to address the question of conscience. Otherwise, allowing a guilty party to try to clear his conscience is the exact wrong thing to do - even under the present circumstances.
Labour finally shakes off Nationals shadow a year on from the election
Labour PR merchants could not have done a better job. Its the Jacinda Show. All that is missing is the âRa-ra-raâ trills. A mere whisper about Lees-Galloways blunder when it threatens to be more than a passing shout.
Council flats landlord ordered to repay tenants after overcharging for 'dated', 1-bedroom unit
The decent thing for the Council to do is to accept it got it wrong. If it doesnt want to apologise, fine. But to appeal the adjudicators decision shows the Council thinks theres nothing wrong in its inflated tenancy rentals.
Mark Reason: Serena's sexism reflects America's culture of misandry
The anti-male sentiments evoked by Williams professional tantrumming recalls the cult-like mood of the mid-1970s when Susan Brownmillers book âAgainst Our Will: Men, Women & Rapeâ popularised the mantra, â˜All men are rapists. It feels like nothings really been learned. The best a debate can offer is a woefully simplistic round of anti-male banners masquerading as reasoned commentary. The worst part is the lapdog males who dare not contradict the banners. The relatively few female voices calling on Williams to stop the dummy-spitting the grow up are a balm in this new season of male hating.
Embattled minister Clare Curran struggles to explain using personal email for Government business
OMGmail?!
Sir Bob Jones' wooden office tower is 'absurdly delayed' by construction industry woes
This is not the bad news Jones suggest it is. All construction companies approached refused to a fixed price for the mammoth âuniqueâ build. Good. They are modeling the approach needed in an industry where cost-cutting and beating your rivals have been wreckless priorities. Businessman Jones knows that does not mean a free-for-all for the successful contractor - it simply means the company doesnt risk going under for the sake of getting the job.
Alison Mau: Voices of ordinary Kiwi women are being shut down online
Even the women who trolled and lambasted the âvictimâ? Funny that women who behave badly are excused on the grounds of their own alleged victim hood. Thats a convenient hook to excuse women who mistreat other women. Now lets see if we can start looking for the victimhood status of men who mistreat other males.
Was a Qantas attendant disrespectful to call a passenger with a doctorate miss?
As someone with a PhD, I totally agree.
Embattled minister Clare Curran struggles to explain using personal email for Government business
Will the time of Lees searching questions be recorded in Currans diary?
Precious rock New Zealand is accused of stealing from the Sahara
Theres a local hue and cry over ethically sourced bananas and tea (among other edibles). But, until this Stuff article, zilch about ethically sourced phosphate. The story behind it is upsetting on many levels - and there appears no clearcut answer. Will New Zealand step forward and refuse all imports of phosphate and turn to the Chatham Island alternative?
Traveller disgusted by state of Wellsford's public toilets
Contract locals to clean them - rather than rely on the Council. I was in Picton earlier this year and found one of the unisex âautoâ toilets to be completely out of loo paper (it was otherwise in an acceptable state). I phoned the âofficialâ number for complaints, and once my call was answered, the operator proceeded to ask me a series of questions about my name, address m, how long I was going to be in Picton and my immediate contact details. I interrupted her to complain about all the personal information she wanted from me and to tell her of the complaint - but she protested she had to take all my details. I reiterated my complaint and hung up. One day later:Still no loo paper in the toilet. Get a local contractor who does the job minus all the beauracracy.
Tennis umpire at centre of Serena Williams' sexist claims hid in hotel
A player who invoked the name of her God, Jehovah, when she wins but spouts venom when she loses.A fine example indeed!
Jami-Lee Ross' tape of Simon Bridges makes headlines around the world
If only Bridges had promoted JLR none of this would have come to light. The taped phone call paints both in an unfavourable light. That makes JLR a hypocrite - in addition to everything he accuses Bridges of.
Dancing With the Stars: Simon Barnett believes Chris Harris should have won
Before results were announced - but only after voting had finished - the three judges were asked who they thought should win; one wouldn't say but two said Harris.
Alison Mau: Voices of ordinary Kiwi women are being shut down online
So anyone - including other women - who see the weaknesses in Alisons arguments is the kind of person she writes about? That sounds like cult thinking: if you dont agree with everything we say, you are against us.
Pink sets Dunedin on fire, delivering a spectacle
Loved her music for years - who can forget Funhouse? - and Im not even her demographic.
Dont steal - not in 2018 or ever - Lorde erupts at Kanye West
As a Lorde fan from the beginning, even I think shes being Melodramatic (get it?).
The reincarnation of Hinemoa Elder
Ive always admired her restrained public persona - especially during those times of intense media interest and scrutiny such as her then husbands leaving her and her daughters drug problems. She has presence and mana.
‘Serious storm clouds’ threaten NZ democracy - report
Voting rights should not be available to Permanent Residents until they become New Zealand citizens.
Our 17-year age gap means I will become my husband's minder
Even for males, 64 is incredibly early for someone to turn into âan old manâ. Even so, it is a sobering reminder of what can happen when relatively large age gaps exist in relationships and marriages.
National wants Chelsea Manning barred from New Zealand
So is this just Woodhouse mouthing off along the lines of, âIf I still held power, Id bar herâ or a considered piece of National policy? Wheres Simon Bridges?
Trump vows 'severe punishment' if US determines Saudi Arabia killed Jamal Khashoggi
Khashoggi endured repeated death threats over a number of years from Saudi Arabia. Yet he willingly walked alone into a Saudi Arabian embassy in Turkey. I would not have been the only one to have thought, âNo, you shouldnt have!â when he briskly walked into the embassy that day - the first time he had ever done so since working for the Washington Post.
'I was told I was an abomination' - former youth pastor on why gay conversion therapy should be banned
As a man in his mid-60s, I can only express sadness that yet another religious group imposes harmful psycho therapies on its members socialised into hating themselves and their sexuality. As a mixed up, guilt-ridden young man who wanted to abide by his JW beliefs, I so wanted to be rid of the gay. I approached several different therapists asking if they could help. Most said they were not trained in the type of therapy I was seeking (aversion therapy) and warned me about it. They offered instead to help me accept myself - but that scared me almost to death. I came across a couple of local hypnotists who said they could help who worked their hocus-picks on me - but that made me feel even more confused and depressed. I eventually left the JW religion because it was also increasing my sense of personal defective ness, wickedness and desire to kill myself. Here I am some four decades later free of religious madness and self-loathing and I am now into my 20th year of living with my male partner. I am happy to now be Depression- and suicide free - accepting myself as I was encouraged to do by those wonderful therapists from the late 1970s-early 1980s whose offer s to help me come to terms with my sexuality were declined for so long.
Hold her close to your heart: Neil and Liam Finn send lullaby to PMs First Baby
Well,if the song's half as good as any of the iconic Split Enz's songs, this will indeed be a special gift. At this point in time, however, it does have publicity stunt for a new CD written all over it.
Dancing With The Stars NZ: Salsa night falls flat, leaves weird taste
It's so bad, it's good. Just as New Zealand's Got Talent was torpedoed by a couple of criminally dodgy contestants and foul-mouth judges, TV 3's Dancing with the Stars is heading into franchise oblivion. Keep up the bad - compulsive viewing in the meantime. No accident the show's actually sponsored by a major headache pill company.
'Blessed Day': Anika Moa announces pregnancy
Yes, and its one you responded to.
An 11-million-tonne iceberg threatens a tiny village in Greenland
Unintentionally hilarious opening sentence describes iceberg as âparkedâ near the village. Icebergs dont park: They either float or are grounded on the sea floor. Still, the video showing the break off of a large sheath of ice from the iceberg is pretty impressive in its wave-creating impact.
Scientists discover three new sea creatures in depths of the Pacific Ocean
The pink, blue and purple creatures are very hurt by your sarcasm - something they seldom, if ever, encounter on the sea floor.
'Culture change' needed to make Wellington NZ's first sexual abuse free city
If most men lived in fear of the likelihood of some level of physical assault when they go to bars and clubs - based on previous experience and/or hearing what happens to their male friends - there might be more of a groundswell of support for Wellington's initiative to stamp out sexual assault on women in bars and clubs. This stands or falls on how well men who go to bars and clubs acknowledge and treat it as a real problem for women that needs to be squarely addressed.
Pressure of earthquake caused some Christchurch leaders to have a 'meltdown'
Even people who stay still burnt out and, as Parker says, often had 10 years added to their life in terms of health costs. To suggest those who stepped down from their roles were not 1 Cantabrians is a little on the thoughtless side. Some had absolutely no choice than to give up their roles such was the health toll.
Is Batman an atheist? Why superheroes might not believe in God
I thought it was the other way round: Does God believe Batman exists?
Wellington's Transmission Gully motorway project hits halfway mark
With climax heaving music fit for ushering in a splendid new world of smooth-as motoring. Bring on the goosebumps! I'm looking forward to a marvellously engineered, congestion-free, scenic-thrilled driving experience.
Wellington house for sale, 'kerbside viewing only'
âOwnersâ aggrieved to be forced by their bank into mortgagee sale usually hate the bank by the time it reaches this stage. This is usually a perfect storm when owners realise they wont be any better off following the sale and so engage in a range of self-defeating behaviours in a feeble attempt to get back at the bank. None of it works - in fact, a lot of it harms the owner - but thats hardly the point which is a desperate attempt to hit back at the mean bank which is simply trying to reduce its losses.
ACC 'doubles down' with $669m transformation project
ACC argues the plan would pre-approve treatment for more straightforward injuries. Wonderful! Not. ACC has spent an organisational lifetime turning straightforward injuries into claims nightmares. And were expected to believe 400 fewer staff will enable this unbelievably feather-lite vision? Welcome to longer and longer waiting times and even greater frustrations over even the simplest of claims.
A deathbed murder confession: Why doctors decided not to tell police
Ethical considerations? What a load of professional rubbish. What about ethical considerations towards the victims and their families who have likely spent decades not knowing who did it - or worse, blamed others? Anyone who has been through that would never be okay about the doctors craven silence.And as for those who allegedly paid him to do it - theyre off scot free? And were led to believe that the doctors agonised over this decision to keep quiet? Makes me sick just reading about it.
Counting the cost of packed lunch versus buying out
Clearly no cafe or fast food business owners are replying.
Nothing is sacred when it comes to identifying Auckland's wasted spaces
Heaven isn't big or expensive enough. God needs - and gets -lots of valuable, tax-free Auckland properties. Always space for God and his moneyed followers - - not so much room for all others.
Melons off supermarket shelves after imports suspended
You thought you were hiding them but we knew.
Masterton man buys house only to find out five years later he doesnt own it
This has turned out to be a real meth.
Mum mad at other woman for videoing her child's tantrum
Mummy to son: If you throw a big wobbly when youre in the supermarket with me, you could end up a social media star!Son to Mummy: Take me to the supermarket right now. Im feeling ugly and mean!
The Chase would not survive without Bradley Walsh
Watched Aussie version once; the compere oozes sarcasm and his asides to the Chasers are irritating.
'I have already won': Rebel Wilson confident ahead of Bauer appeal decision
Reducing damages from over five million to six-hundred thousand is a staggering financial victory for the publisher, whatever Rebel says to the contrary.
New Zealand's top 100 restaurants for 2018 named
Its so bad in Levin that people Liveout.
Donald Trump 'churlish' over McCain death
If all else fails, have your children say something nice. Failing that, trail a forlorn dog alongside the hearse. Tears guaranteed.
Wellington's Victoria University votes to change its name to University of Wellington
I suspected the odds would be low on rebranding it University of Eketahuna.
BBC presenter Rachael Bland dies after battle with breast cancer
In this age of headline scrolling, there is no excuse for anyone complaining about too many stories about people dying of cancer. CJ1, do yourself - and us - a big favour: Scroll right past such stories: Youll be able to keep your head in the sand and well be spared your ignorance.
New Zealand musicians celebrate the 'Queen of Soul' Aretha Franklin
I never loved a singer the way I loved Aretha. An icon has gone and my heart breaks.
Beef sausages with no meat on the ingredients list
So in the list of ingredients Mad Butchers put ms everything except the main ingredient - so you dont even get to see what percentage is âpureâ beef? Thanks Mad Butcher. Do other sausage makers have this sort of unhelpful ingredients list?
World Rugby boss Agustin Pichot sparks outrage by sharing xenophobic squads list
How on earth is this an instance of xenophobia?
Dancing With The Stars NZ: Samantha Hayes wins finale
Thank our lucky stars it was Sam and not David Seymour. For several weeks Mr Wooden Legs threatened to beat the lot with his loyal block of voters. But in the end, good taste and moves prevailed. Will Sam announce her win on Newshub?
"Kanoa Lloyd opens up about counselling, encourages others to start talking",
Some services and counsellors fees are based on clients incomes or allow payment over time. Also, WINZ may under certain circumstances provide an allowance for counselling. The other side is that many counsellors, including registered psychologists, have invested literally years and years of expensive training and study to gain their qualifications and maintain their practising certificates. Shop around!
Pop star Pink hits out at Auckland bar Deadshot, but helps clear up dishes at another
She did not go there - but some of her staff did. The bar owner has invited her to pay a visit. To be fair, she should have said she was basing her review - not on firsthand experience - but her staffs. To leave that important part out is unfair, dont you think (regardless of what a humble person she may otherwise be)?
Is the Ballantynes Christmas cover really what Kiwi families aspire to?
Candy-cane girl is his sister and hes my boyfriend. As for the kids, they are passersby pulled in for the photo-shoot.
Melons off supermarket shelves after imports suspended
Dont ask - this is a respectable site.
New hole on Australian beach a 'near-shore landslip', not a sinkhole
And if it doesnt pass inspection, well give it a hefty fine.
Controversial TV star expects millions to give public access to South Island station
So it would pass without media comment if the âstarsâ reputation wasnt tarnished? I cant work out what reputation has got to do with wealthy overseas interests buying leasehold land.
"Explosive allegations before disgraced MP Jami-Lee Ross quits National Party, forcing by-election",
So did Ross carry out his leaders instruction knowing it was an alleged corrupt practice that could end in a criminal conviction? If he takes his âevidenceâ to the police, will he too face charges?
Duncan Garner: Say no to Viagogo and shut it down now
Viagogo is English for âSucker born every minuteâ
Lily Allen reveals she slept with female escorts during her Sheezus tour in 2014
She slept with the escorts. To do anything else other than sleep would have cost so very much more.
Suzanne Paul gets a name change, but can you spot the difference?
Those who read this and then ask in writing, Is this news? prove it is.
How Mount Maunganui turned from paradise to prison
Everyone wants it the way it used to be (which is almost always how it was when they first moved there) with little thought given to how - even back then - it wasnt the way it originally was. We have the same âsyndromeâ on the Kapiti Coast: Old timers lament the changes - forgetting the changes that preceded them and that were even âcausedâ by their arrival a generation or two ago. Oh yes! And its others who are greedy - never âusâ.
"HDC finding on IDEA Services failings in treatment of disabled boy in foster care",
Of course you are not placing blame on the parents, but at the same time you divert the focus away from IDEA services failure to adequately investigate the parents complaints (not even interviewing them) and then fobbing them off with a one-page report. And when the parents finally managed to obtain the full report, it was inadequate and contained inaccuracies, including that the parents had been interviewed when they had not.There is no way upper management would have been ignorant of this astonishing set of stone-walling tactics and failures to adequately investigate. It perpetuates the notion that IDEA Services suffers from incompetent leadership. The apology seems hollow and is no guarantee the specific staff involved have been held to account.
'I was told I was an abomination' - former youth pastor on why gay conversion therapy should be banned
It is hardly âvoluntaryâ when so much inculcated religious misinformation goes with the pressure to stop being homosexual in orientation and be âstraightâ. As for banning it: yes lets work to have aversion therapy banned. It is from a discredited school of psychotherapy and outcome studies indicate it does not work but can be damaging in the process. As for claims it turns gays straight; what rubbish! If a man is bisexual, all he has to do is suppress his interest in men and presto! Hes allegedly cured. Highly dubious and unethical.
Agent expects bids over $750k for uninhabitable two-bedroom house
Well, I did say I just wanted a roof over my head.
Kylie Minogue and Jason Donovan reunite on London stage, especially for you
Didnt like her at all in the â˜80s and â˜90s but got to really like her as shes got older (okay, Im older too).
New Zealand's top 100 restaurants for 2018 named
So Kapiti Coast didnt even get a look-in. Cuisines eye is firmly on the Capital and absolutely little else in this neck of the woods.
Landlocked bach for $150k has no access, so you can't view it
When my great grandfather - who still had his marbles in the 1920s - faced access to landlocked properties,Landlocked properties - illegal in New Zealand - should unlock easily. Theres something fishy about the back story.
Aretha Franklin's family says eulogy was offensive
Id have thought that eulogies at any âfundamentalistâ church were just opportunities to use the individuals death as an excuse to preach and recruit. Its bound to upset someone but thats what happens in that environment. The message is preached and the audience is told how to get ârightâ with the churchs beliefs. Show me one fundamentalist church that doesnt do that. The Franklin family admitted they never actually sat down with the minister to go over the eulogy together and say what they wanted. Big mistake - especially given this was not a more mainstream church.
Almond milk that is 97.5% not almond
Amen to almonds, but not the milk.
Residents blame damage to suburban lakes on Transmission Gully work
It would be more accurate to say the lakes vary in colour year round. We lived there some years ago and none of this is new. Major subdivision work at the time was thought to be behind the browning of the lower lake then - but no one protested (when its housing its more forgivable).
The cafe that calls itself home of terrible Trip Advisor reviews
I went there for a coffee once. Once.
Trump vows 'severe punishment' if US determines Saudi Arabia killed Jamal Khashoggi
Pastors release was on the cards before Khashoggis disappearance. His suspected assassination by Saudi Arabia has been a blow to Turkish sovereignty.
NZTA plan to narrow bridge for cycleway described as 'death trap'
Has there ever been a count over several days of how many cyclists on an average day crossover the bridge? Strange that plans were made to design a separate lane for cyclists when no one even appears to know these sorts of numbers.
Heres why you need $2m saved for a comfortable retirement
I have been at more dinner parties than I care to remember. I have never heard napkIns rustle. Lost me there, Janine.
A deathbed murder confession: Why doctors decided not to tell police
I think one of their considerations was whether his confessions were about present risk or danger to self and/or others (i.e., that he was currently or about to engage in lethal contract work). So, to use your example, yes placing a time bomb in the hospital toilets would be disclosed to the police.
New Zealand's top 100 restaurants for 2018 named
Maison 8 in Waikanae!
Trapped in the Thai cave: 'The madness is in the dark - it drives you to the brink'
An astonishingly insensitive comment. The coach and boys did not choose to go so deeply into the cave. Unexpected flooding forced them in further to higher ground to avoid drowning. Unfortunately as they were to learn, they soon became completely trapped. To the coachs credit, he helped the boys remain as calm as possible.
Wellington house for sale, 'kerbside viewing only'
An acquaintance made it even harder for the bank who, in turn, cut him and his family no slack and he suffered a major loss. Friends warned him to cooperate with the bank for the very reasons you allude to. But he refused. I think he had a big time need to spit the dummy even though it backfired in the end. And I dont blame the bank for taking a hard line. He was warned well ahead of time what could happen if he didnt cooperate but he had to be seen as David versus Goliath.
Peka Peka to ÅŒtaki expressway gets hush treatment
So does the rest of the Kapiti Expressway have the quieter seal? I recall the residents of Raumati staged a protest over the louder than expected seal within months of the Expressway opening last year. Looks like Peka Peka residents will be much better served.
Traveller disgusted by state of Wellsford's public toilets
If youre wearing a wet suit, best have a convenient opening.
Traveller disgusted by state of Wellsford's public toilets
Never us - always âthemâ - but the camera doesnt lie.
Whitireia scraps journalism diploma months after moving into new Wellington facility Te Auaha
Isnt there a story here that needed to have been told well before the course is on the verge of being scrapped? Presumably the decision wasnt made overnight. Im astonished that the latest batch of students didnt seize hold of the opportunity to run an investigative series on the state of journalism training in New Zealand. What a missed opportunity!People interviewed spoke as though this is the first theyve heard of the course ending for good in November. If this were a cooking or health service course I could understand the âdone dealâ fatalism of the interviewees - but these are prospective or seasoned journalists who needed to have got onto the story much earlier or asked why there has been so very little notice. As for the comment that the closure is about a failure of marketing rather than training demand: Wheres the evidence for that? Good journalism would have dig much deeper and sought definitive answers and not settled for âwoe is usâ thinking.
White House shares doctored video to support punishment of CNN journalist
If anything, the video shows the (female) intern is the more âaggressiveâ party.
Melons off supermarket shelves after imports suspended
The least shopliftable grocery item is now off the shelves. Great.
Heres why you need $2m saved for a comfortable retirement
She never even mentioned property downsizing - often necessary for the later years due to declining health and physical well-being. Not one word mentioned about the potential nest egg here. She cited an American study by Fidelity - but produces no evidence she has actually sat down with Kiwi retirees who have sensibly downsized property and are happily living on reduced incomes with handsome savings.
Parking fail: Car hangs from boat ramp
The car is usually mustard coloured - but extreme embarrassment has had its way.